Ouch, this hurts like a mother. Why am I putting myself through this pain? Has my daily flossing and brushing amounted to nothing?
These were the thoughts flashing through my mind at a recent dental cleaning. It had been over a year and the tartar build up on my teeth was not pretty. I know, TMI.
During the cleaning, there were times where I wanted to scream and pull a Ronda Rousy move on the dentist…if I had those moves. Hey, this is in my head so I can do anything I want, right?
After it was said and done though, I luxuriated in how smooth and clean my teeth felt. Throughout the day, I couldn’t help but continuously run my tongue along my teeth. It was a stark contrast to the roughness I usually feel.
I had a similar experience recently with my finances. I am a financial coach and had a fellow coach, Gayle, review my budget.
We had setup a time. As I was preparing my budget before our meeting, I found myself scrutinizing it more closely than if only my husband and I were reviewing it.
Gayle lives on the east coast and had I scheduled the call for 6:30 am, before the kids wake up. Of course, I had also scheduled it for a Monday morning.
When my alarm went off at 6:00 am, I was less than excited about the call. Why am I doing this? I wonder if we can reschedule. Do I really need this? I’m tired.
I even texted her hoping she would say she couldn’t do it.
Wait!!! As I financial coach, I should be more excited about this, right?
Gayle replied we were still on and even had a cute emoji smiling back at me. How could I cancel after seeing that emoji?
My kids are 5 and 7, but they eat they eat the amount of 2 full-grown adults. We also have a special diet and try and eat healthy. I’ve always felt like our food expenses are higher than I’d like. I feared Gayle would balk at our food expenses and challenge me to radically cut.
The experience, however, was nothing of the sort. I explained my situation, she offered some suggestions I hadn’t considered. Mostly, she provided support and encouragement. I will say the experience was like taking a refreshing shower after camping for days in dirt and heat.
Opening up about my finances (which has always been an extremely touchy area for me) was very freeing. I felt like I didn’t have to hide anymore.
Since our call, there have been several times I considered purchasing things, then Accountability would rear its head. Knowing my goals and knowing I’d be talking to Gayle in a few weeks, gave me the nudge I needed to push harder in sticking to my budget.
According to a study by ExerciseFriends:
“Dieting or working out alone is a losing proposition 95% of the time.
ExerciseFriends found accountability partners raise the success of failing diet and exercise programs to over 95%. Their members tend to keep the pounds off if they keep working with a friend or partner.
The study found that over 89% of those who pay personal trainers do so because they force themselves to show up because they have paid a person to be waiting there for them.“
I am convinced that although we don’t always love accountability, we all need it to take our lives higher.
How have you seen accountability help you reach your goals?